Peer Support & Group Coaching
Integration can be hard to do on your own - and you don't have to!
You can read every book on parts work. You can journal every night. You can get genuinely good at noticing your patterns in real time. And you can still find yourself, alone in a room, unable to get past the same wall you've been running into for months.
That's not a sign you're doing it wrong. It's just what solo integration work runs into, eventually, for almost everyone. Insight is something you can absolutely get alone. Sustained change, the kind that actually stays when life gets loud again, is a lot harder to build without anyone around you.
This page is about the part of the work that happens with other people: peer support, where you and a partner take turns holding space for each other; and group coaching, where you practice alongside a room of people doing the same work you are. Neither one replaces 1:1 coaching but are designed to complement each other.
"If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together." - African proverb
Insight or integration. Both can happen alone but it can be easier with other people in the room
You already know the shape of this if you've spent any time with the Insight → Alignment → Action process.
Gaining insight is possible to do by yourself, a good book, a quiet hour, some honest self-reflection will get you there. And sometimes, you need an external perspective to see what you are missing.
Alignment and action are the same story. You can try and white knuckle through the process and the outcome on your own, or you can get support to make it easier and far more effective.
Integration asks you to actually change how you show up, under real pressure, on an ordinary Tuesday - and that's a much harder thing to sustain alone in a room with no one watching and no one to notice if you quietly slide back into the old pattern.
That's where practice partners come in. They're often the actual mechanism that gets alignment to hold once the insight has already landed.
What Peer Support Actually Looks Like
There are two ways to do this alongside other people, and they serve slightly different needs. One is intimate and reciprocal — just you and one other person. The other is a room of people, facilitated, ongoing. They're a different shape of support, built for the part of the work that coaching alone can't fully cover.
Peer support means taking turns holding space for each other
Peer support is exactly what it sounds like: you and a partner take turns being the one who's supported and the one who's supporting.
For half of the session, you're in the sharer role, working through whatever's live for you, with your partner simply witnessing and holding space. Then for the last half you swap roles.
It's not therapy, and neither of you needs to be a professional to do it well.
What it requires is a shared vocabulary, which is exactly what you get from having gone through the coaching, the workbook, or the fundamentals course. You already speak the same language of parts, alignment, and integration, so the sessions don't waste time on theory. You go straight into practice.
You get almost as much out of the sessions where you're holding space as the ones where you're being held. Learning to sit with someone else's stuck part, calmly and without trying to fix it, is one of the fastest ways to get better at doing the same thing for your own.
Group coaching and Practice Labs — because this sh*t is genuinely hard to do on your own!
You don’t have to white knuckle through this work alone! I’m offering a group coaching option to provide you with support, community and ways to strengthen your skills.
The format is an online or in-person live, facilitated group. Weekly sessions where you're practicing integration skills alongside other people, with real-time coaching and demonstrations, not just theory delivered at you.
You'll work through the same core material as 1:1 clients, but with the added benefit of watching other people work through their own stuff, which teaches you things about your own patterns you'd never catch alone. And because it's a shared room, not a one-on-one, it costs a lot less to be in it.
The room does something a solo workbook never can: it notices when you go quiet. It asks where you've been. It remembers what you said you were working on three weeks ago and checks whether you actually did it. That's an accountability structure that makes the difference between insight you had once and change you actually keep.
Why doing this with other people works better than doing it alone
Peer support does something that even excellent 1:1 coaching, done alone in a room with just the two of us, structurally cannot do.
You learn as much from holding space for someone else as you do from being held
Here's the thing almost no one expects going in: the sessions where you're supporting someone else teach you as much about your own integration work as the sessions where you're the one being supported.
When you sit with someone else's stuck part, and you are patient, curious, not trying to fix it — you're building the exact muscle you need to do that for your own parts later, alone, at 11pm, when there's no one else in the room.
It's the difference between reading about a skill and actually rehearsing it under real conditions. You can't fake holding space for someone else. Either you can do it or you're learning to, in real time, with real stakes. That's a different kind of practice than journaling ever gives you.
This is also where a lot of the shame drops away. It's one thing to know intellectually that everyone has stuck parts. It's another to sit across from someone you respect and watch them wrestle with the exact same kind of self-sabotage you've been quietly ashamed of. It stops being a personal flaw and starts looking like just how minds work.
No one closes the integration gap entirely on their own
You can get real insight by yourself. You can even get a good way into alignment on your own, especially after coaching. But closing the integration gap for good means actually living the change instead of just understanding it. This is rarely a solo achievement, for anyone, including myself.
The gap tends to close through repetition, under real conditions, with someone else noticing when you slip. That's the evidence of working with hundreds of people over more than 25 years has shown me: consistent practice with other people around you closes gaps that a single insight, however powerful, usually can't close alone. That's the entire reason Peer Support and Group Work exists.
Who peer support is a good fit for
Peer support in a group setting tends to serve two different people well, and you might be either one:
If you've done the 1:1 work and you're wondering what comes next
You finished the 90-Day Protocol, individual or group coaching or you've been doing this work for a while, and you're in good shape but you know that without consistent practice, old patterns have a way of quietly creeping back in once life gets busy again.
This is exactly what peer support is for. It’s about maintaining your shift as its own skill, and it's a lot easier with practice partners than doing it alone. Plenty of people move from 1:1 coaching straight into peer support or group sessions for precisely this reason, to protect and keep growing what they built.
If you're not ready for 1:1 but you want to start somewhere
Maybe the 90-Day Protocol isn't the right entry point for you yet. Could be the cost, the timing, or just not being sure this whole thing is for you. That's completely fine, and it doesn't mean you have to wait to start your journey into integration.
Group coaching is an alternative way to start. You'll learn the same core material, practice the same skills, and get real support - just in a room instead of one-on-one, and at a fraction of the cost. A lot of people who eventually do the individual coaching started right here first.
Ready to stop going at it alone?
You don't have to decide right now whether peer support or group coaching is the better fit. What matters more is not doing this next stretch entirely by yourself.
The easiest place to start is the Capacity Check, the same short, free assessment used across the site, from there, we can figure out which format actually fits you best.
Prefer to chat first? Book a free 30-minute Strategy Session.
FAQs
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Is this therapy?
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No. My approach is developmental, not clinical. I use evidence-based psychological frameworks (like IFS) strictly for professional growth, resilience, and skill-building.
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Do you offer virtual sessions?
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Yes. All sessions can be delivered virtually or in-person for people in Seattle. For in-person events outside of the Seattle area, a travel and lodging stipend will be itemized in the final proposal.
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